Fuck him.
He makes men in the men’s bathroom uncomfortable, therefore he gives himself permission to invade women’s bathrooms and if the women are made uncomfortable, it’s fuck them.
Too damn lazy and cowardly to challenge other men for his right to use his own bathroom, but women? Just piss in our space and the hell with us.
Fuck him. We need to learn how to whip their asses. Seriously.
Also, this guy-o (who doesn’t even identify as a woman or as transsexual, but fully as male) feels perfectly free and happy to violate women’s boundaries at will. That has got to stop.
I am more powerful than a locomotive, can bend steel with my bare hands, and can whoop patriarchal ass faster than a speeding bullet! Oh wait. That’s Superman. But I can tell you the last trans who got aggressive with me publicly complained I left one vertebra left in his neck. He’s lucky I didn’t toss him out the nearest window, The dude came into my hotel room, posing as a woman, and followed me around the room ooo-ing and ahhh-ing, asking me to remove articles of clothing. He not only felt entitled to use the public ladies’ room, he felt entitled to walk into my private bathroom with me in it! The dude is a sexual predator and I’ve seen more than a few hints of rape from other women who have encountered him.
I can’t imagine why anyone would take an issue with this! He’s just a choosy male choosing his choices and why can’t we just let him do his thang?! *sassy finger snaps*
-_-
Perhaps women don’t say anything to him when he’s in the bathroom because they can perhaps tell that he wouldn’t give a fuck about their safety and feelings? Perhaps they have been shouted at and yelled at before by gay men why have this extreme sense of entitlement in the woman’s restroom? Perhaps as women we have been taught to basically let others walk all over us and therefore we are MUCH less likely to bring up the situation at all especially when we are already feeling unsafe by a male walking unabashedly into the women’s restroom?
Perhaps women KNOW that men DO, in fact, LOVE to sneak into the woman’s restroom specifically to take pictures of us while we’re going to the restroom and that we know this could be ANY male and therefore why should this one be trusted when he comes into the woman’s restroom more than any other male?
I his words: Bitch, please.
I am also sad I cannot find a clip on Youtube from Invader Zim of Zim screaming, “But… invader’s blood marches through my veins, like giant RADIOACTIVE RUBBER PANTS! The pants command me. Do not ignore my veins! ” because his first bit about ladiness or something running through his veins just made me think of that bit and I laughed.
Men’s restrooms don’t seem entirely safe for gay men. I have heard this from more than one gay man, and I have sympathy for the homophobia that contributes to their feeling of “unsafe.” This, of course, suggests that there is something about “some men” that seems unsafe to gay men. These are the same “some men” that many females are concerned about using the ladies’ room. And this is why, of course, people advocate for a limiting definition of “gender identity,” or lobby against “gender identity” – precisely to avoid those “some men” in female-segregated space.
Also, I cannot believe I watched that entire video! Thanks for posting.
I can’t listen to that dickhead. I had to stop it halfway through. Pretty much, I’m just going to use the so-called “family” bathroom if there is one. Female public life is getting raped beyond all recognition.
Rage. Just… rage. Gay white men have to be some of the whiniest creatures to walk the Earth. They consider themselves marginalized, but in reality they’re privileged as all fuck.
Newsflash, sweetie. No1curr, least of all any self-respecting woman, that you get harassed for being a faggot by your homophobic brothers in the mens room. That has absolutely jack shit to do with women, so WHY do you consider the only solution is to put the burden on women by using the women’s restroom? Either put on your big girl panties and deal with the dudes who harass you, or invest in a fucking pack of Depends.
No, no I’m sorry, I don’t care how cute you think you are, you’re still not welcome to come into the girl’s bathroom to change your tampon.
Interesting how he says he enjoys the girl’s bathroom and the feeling is mutual (presumably from the other patrons.) He’s lying to himself, kind of like rapist lie, by implying that women enjoy him in the bathroom just as much as he enjoys himself. He’s almost saying they’re getting off on it, just like he is, which of course, gives you a clue that he’s not just in there to pee.
I think men need to deal with the “some men” in their own spaces, because it is all about the men causing trouble for each other, and trouble for women.
Gay men think they can walk in anywhere. Back in the day, a couple of dykes would grab them and march them right out into the parking lot, or throw them out of a room physically.
We just didn’t tolerate men walking into our spaces. And someone above was absolutely right that women are silent or ignore men out of fear of them, not because they are comfortable with men in a restroom. No Mr. you have no right to come into the women’s room, and maybe women need to get more aggressive real fast. Don’t you just feel like throwing a bucket of water all over his fake face!
You are exactly right that gay men need to deal with this issue – if gay men feel uncomfortable in the men’s room because of fear of attack rooted in homophobia, that’s an issue they need to deal with directly, by working to eradicate homophobia from other men. It’s endlessly irritating that the impulse to hide behind mommy’s skirts is the default response to much of the concerns about *safety*.
Enough is enough.
I am more than happy to form half of ‘a couple of dykes’.
It is about time females, all females, got more aggressive towards invading males of any kind. Right now, even the gay dudes – who still identify as male – feel so entitled to use the female bathroom.
They can seriously fuck off. More than happy to show them the door. I am not afraid of getting unlaydeelike. Not at all.
The entire point of this video was to tell us how well he passes, everything else was just filler. The twink/tranny mind is incapable of much more than thinly veiled (minstrel) vanity.
So, an effeminate male, who identifies himself as an effeminate male, and in no way identifies as female or as woman, is equally repugnant in your eyes as any trans*?
Ah, gotta miss the days when men were men and women were women, right?
I personally have no problem with femmy guys, and I seriously doubt anyone here is longing for more gender conformity. The main objection is that he’s using the women’s bathroom. Nice strawman, though.
Huh, guess my original reply didn’t go through or something. Thought it might have been caught in moderation.
I describe “effeminate” as exhibiting a behaviour or appearance stereotypically ascribed to females.
But I guess the point I was getting to, that you all are squicked out because of the ways he acts and adorns himself, was already addressed.
It really is hard to believe, at first glance however, that all the vitriol directed at the dude in these comments isn’t inspired by a visceral disgust at his non-gender-conforming femmyness, which is quite denigrated and attacked by the P as it is. Most of the comments
Also, this guy is so gay he farts rainbows and sneezes glitter. Is his penis, by nature of being a penis, really that big of a threat to all women anywhere that taking a piss in a stall in a women’s bathroom is grounds for an aggressive kick in the pants?
I mean, its a bathroom. Not MichFest.
Also, the implication that what he says is somehow representative of trans is completely false. Hell, this whole page is replete with invalid assumptions, mischaracterizations, and obviously false accusations which can only be attributed to outright ignorance at best, and outright hatred at worst.
“It really is hard to believe, at first glance however, that all the vitriol directed at the dude in these comments isn’t inspired by a visceral disgust at his non-gender-conforming..”
That is an invalid assumption, mischaracterization, and obviously false accusation.
“Also, the implication that what he says is somehow representative of trans is completely false. Hell, this whole page is replete with invalid assumptions, mischaracterizations, and obviously false accusations which can only be attributed to outright ignorance at best, and outright hatred at worst.”
What a wild accusation. On what do you base it?
“A tampon, huh? Female fetishism comes from gay men too.”
Pre-empting the accusation that he would peep on what women do privately in their stalls, such as change tampons(something for which I understand most women would prefer a great deal of privacy, and guys apparently have some huge interest in) is indicative of fetishism? [“Pre-empting the accusation that he would peep on what women do privately in their stalls..” Wha???? That’s ALL YOU sierpinski. All YOUR projection. No one but you SAID THAT. The commenter referred to fetishization of the female. Correctly. Not whatever fantasy you projected on their comment.-GM]
“The entire point of this video was to tell us how well he passes, everything else was just filler. The twink/tranny mind is incapable of much more than thinly veiled (minstrel) vanity.”
Pretty much this entire comment is completely off base. Not what he was saying, and not what his intentions were in the least bit, and framing as such requires a deliberate misreading. [The only deliberate misreading is yours. The entire video is about how he should “pass” in female spaces because he performs femininity. Your criticism of the comment is completely off base.-GM]
And accusing his swish of being “minstrel”ism? Really? [An oppressor CHOOSING to adopt stereotypes of behavior that is MANDATED for those of the groups he oppresses, under THREAT OF VIOLENCE is the very DEFINITION of minstrelism.Really.- GM]
(heaven forbid a man violate gender roles!) [He’s not violating gender roles. He is minstrelizing the sex-roles forced upon females under threat of violence and he’s doing it for his pleasure.-GM]
“And when the restrooms started looking and smelling like shit (pun intended), then lo and behold those women folk better get in there and clean it up, because Mr. Prissy ass … ain’t going to mess up his pretty little hands cleaning up a restroom because that is woman’s work.”
Uh, yeah, restrooms are typically cleaned by the janitorial staff, and usually by the same person for both rooms, regardless of their sex. Not to mention, female restrooms are hardly any cleaner than its male counterparts in most public places. More nonsense that has no bearing on this. [Only a man like yourself would think the stink of man-piss soaked floors has any relation to the odor of a female restroom. Maybe you have never been in a female restroom. Or maybe you have but you still have your balls and can’t even smell how rank your own man-piss smells when you splatter the toilet seat with it. What nonsense. -GM]
Also, using prissy as an obvious slur? That’s not femme hatred. Not one bit. [Prissy: Definition: Overly Prim and Precise; Fussy. http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/prissy. Nothing to do with “femme hatred. Again, that’s ALL YOU. YOUR sexism, YOUR projection of YOUR hatred of females. You are the most reflexively, unselfconsciously male-privileged and female-hating commenter I have allowed on here in ages. Seriously, CHECK YOURSELF or you will be banned. -GM]
“He’s almost saying they’re getting off on it, just like he is, which of course, gives you a clue that he’s not just in there to pee.”
Because all be-penised individuals have an erotic desire to be in the women’s bathroom, m i rite? [Erotic desire is YOUR PROJECTION, YOUR INTERPRETATION to the phrase “getting off on it” Getting off means “to enjoy very much” as in, He implies that the women take great pleasure in his presence in the women’s bathroom, as he clearly takes great pleasure in being there. In your projection YOU inserted eroticism into his pleasure, probably because you only had one hand on the keyboard as you typed, and erotic desire is foremost in your mind at all times. M I Rite? -GM]
These are just the quick and easy ones to point to. There’s much deeper shit here, but this isn’t a venue worth putting that much effort into. [As a female impersonator and hater of women, who comes on my blog and spews your creepy-ass projections and male-victimization fantasies, makes wild accusations and uses insulting, nasty language, I have to say YOU ARE NOT WORTH MY EFFORT. ANY FURTHER WOMAN-HATING COMMENTARY WILL BE DELETED AND YOU WILL BE BANNED.-GM]
I have seen a good share of (and even shared in) femme hatred, and this whole thread feels no different. Its just couched in social justice language. [Well that says it all doesn’t it. Too bad you can’t read and hear what women are saying, instead of wallowing in your own projections and female-hatred. Good luck with that echo chamber in your brain. -GM]
sierpinki,
I have a lot of issues with what this man (not “boy”) says. First, he says “doing make-up is just natural…it’s in my veins.” As a woman who is EXPECTED to wear make-up I find this really offensive. If he really cares about the “girls” he is sharing the restroom with, why doesn’t he at least take the time to read something about the lives and struggles of women over the past, oh, decades? Or is it only the “gay boy” liberation movement he cares about?
He also says he is not using the men’s restroom just “to make society” happy. Um, I think the “society” he is referring to is WOMEN. The inability to name who does what to whom is something feminists have brought up over and over in the past decades.
Finally, he says “the feeling [of not caring he’s in the bathroom] is mutual among all the participants.” Wow, a bit of mind-reading there? I believe there’s a quote to the effect of ” a recurring theme in all women’s lives is don’t piss of Mr. Sir” because you’ll experience or may experience violence if you do. Women don’t know how this man will react if we show negativity towards him, and since men generally aren’t willing to call out other men on their violence against women, our best bet for safety is to act nice! and friendly!
Do you get why women might have a problem with this dude at all?!
Yeah – did you hear that bit about how he was better looking than wives, girlfriends, mothers, sisters? Barf…I wouldn’t choose him over a single female I know.
I love your comments and agree. He is a typical disgusting narcissistic man, with no idea that his “femininity” is male defined.
By the way, another very upsetting thing at BV, was that all the bathrooms had “gender neutral” signs, with both that horrible image in a skirt, supposed to represent us, and the male image. Theoretically, this was supposed to make the Lesbians who get harassed going into women’s bathrooms feel better, but I didn’t want to see a male there. Since I arrived before the second sign was up, I warned friends which really was the male one. I did not feel any safer either from the het women looking at us like we were freaks. At least, for once, we outnumbered them.
I couldn’t get more than 60 seconds in before I had to disconnect. What an entitled prick. It just goes to show that women are expected to be the “catch all.” Men are scared of the male restroom and/or don’t like how it smells, so the women should just move over and make room. And when the restrooms started looking and smelling like shit (pun intended), then lo and behold those women folk better get in there and clean it up, because Mr. Prissy ass who prides himself on looking “better” [fuckable] than real women will so pop his neck and roll his head and snap his finger and talk sauce about how he ain’t going to mess up his pretty little hands cleaning up a restroom because that is woman’s work.
Fucker.
Hello, anonymous lurker here. Didn’t watch the video, because i didn’t want to rise my blood pressure. :/ Someone mentioned that he thought he “passed”. “Passed”? In which dimension exactly? LOL. My god, faggots are trully delusional. I read your blog regularly and I’m really horrified by the things that happen in the west. Sorry for my ramblings, but I had to let some steam off.
Keep on keeping on. :*
Best wishes, Lurker
Thanks, I think?
Just curious why a regular reader would suddenly comment on a post about a video they didn’t even watch. No, this twink specifically said he had no intention of passing as a woman. The only thing this young man is delusional about is the belief that women want him in the stall next to them when he takes a dump. Other than that, he’s fabulous as far as I’m concerned. Flaaaaaaaaaaaaammmmingly Fabulous.
Also “things that happen in the west”? Don’t fool yourself. Poland may hate Lesbians and Gays but that doesn’t mean that Poland hates gender and sex roles. Quite the opposite as far as I can see.
Pisses me off! Literally! He still has a cock, and he IS a cock. What a vain stupid silly gay boy in drag…I’ve endured this in MANY a gay/lesbian conference, all the drag queens(and I’m talking drag queens, NOT MTF’s here) feel absolutely entitled to use the Women’s bathroom, while us almost invisible Dykes and Butch Dykes have to scurry around them as they take up so much space with their ‘fabulousness’, spraying their hair, and primping and such. Men are NASTY, they pee on the floor and miss the toilet and leave it up, and it IS an invasion, and until us Dykes and women start doing something about it, it WILL continue. This dude should be cuffed, led out, ticketed and fined and sent out the door and told NO! IF you must, use the disabled/mixed use bathroom, but leave us the fuck alone!
This is why I can’t stand drag queen shows and such because of just this kind of arrogance and stupidity and vapidness! They make fun of our Femaleness, while putting Dykes and Butches down as ‘ugly’ and ‘being more woman’ than we are! Not only that, this dude is seriously Methed up which alot of silly gay white boys are. He talks a mile a minute, ‘Dude, you’re on Meth!’ YOU shut the fuck up!
-FeistyAmazon who would glad escort him out the door!
He still has a cock, and he IS a cock.
LOL, brilliant, that sums up the entire narcissistic video above.
And yeah, I am rather sick of narcissistic drag queens making a show of their performance in the ladies room. They primp and preen about ten-fold what het women do in the bathrooms.
Like all males, drag queens have to have an audience. We are being told by laws that we have to put up with these ‘private drag shows’ in the women’s bathrooms – all the time born-women are being mocked and ridiculed, and most women do know this at a base level, that they are being mocked by drag queens.
Would a white dude really go into a black neighbourhood, blacked up and singing “Mammy”? Or would he get the ever-living crap beaten out of him for mocking them? (and rightly so, imho).
The same shit now happens in women’s bathrooms. We are subjected to a mocking and ridicule of femaleness, and also the femininity crap that we are forced to perform and do not want. Minstrelising females, and artificial femininity. I don’t have the humour for it. None.
So what do we have here, a newly converted FtM?
Those who didn’t watch the vid through I implore you do. It’s high camp. Unintentional of course, but a great guffaw gets better as it goes along. He’s so in love with himself.
Gotta love the guys who fully embrace femininity and claim they look better than any woman. lulz. So delusional, and so threatened by women’s existence.
Don’t let them in the disabled toilet. Escort him/them off a cliff.
Thanks for dealing with the prick, Gallus.
Hi Kitty.
I finally watched to the end. I will never get over white male sense of entitlement and arrogance. If they weren’t destroying the world as a group and invaded what little we have left, they would be so ridiculous.
He looks better than most women? Huh? What am I missing here? Does he often compare him to other species? What’s next? Is he going to claim he looks better than most giraffes? Seals? Goats? Frogs? I don’t know how to break it to you, dude, but you’re only a legend in your own mind. I find you almost as absurd as your claim that make-up is natural. Personally, I don’t find the dude in the least bit appealing or attractive. He’s whiter than most of my sheets. Is he a ghost or something? Good thing he’s wearing make-up or I might not see him and might try to walk right through him. But hey, if other dudes dig the Peter Pan look and find him attractive, good for them! I firmly believe dudes deserve each other. But role play in your own bathroom and stay out of mine, k?
“Is he going to claim he looks better than most giraffes? Seals? Goats? Frogs?”
I seriously just splurted coke all over the keyboard. THanks very much luckynkl!
I’ve watched another vid of his. He is just Taking. The. Piss. OUt. Of. Women. FOr example he talks about some woman, how she’s his best friend, but OMG her teeth! They’re just yellow and eww. I thought, at first, that he was being ironic, because we all women know women aren’t like that, so I thought that MAYBE he was taking the piss out of the STEREOTYPE the media has of us as vapid and shallow humans. BUt the more i watched, the more I realized he BELIEVED that steretotype, and believed that THAT is how women DO ACTUALLY behave. It wasn’t pleasant.
I know! Somebody above claims we just don’t like effeminate men. What the heck is effeminate? Has he doubled his work load and cut his wages in half? Has he put the needs of everyone else before his own?
Let’s see, vapid, shallow, self centered, telling everybody to shove it, bullying, unable to empathize, those are “manly” characteristics! That’s what people are objecting to. The make up is nothing. Men have been wearing make up forever, powdered wigs, tights, war paint, assorted adornments. They’re peacocks, I tell ya!
He’s not “effeminate”, he’s a male’s distorted stereotype of women.
Willing to put other’s needs ahead of his own, get half the pay…. powered wigs anyone?
He is the very definition of stereotypical arrogant masculinity…. I actually think he is pretending to be gay and is really a straight male fettishist…. because if he were a true gay man and woman immitating, he would not inconvenience women, but would stay in his own restroom.
Peacocks….hmmm…. I think comparing him to a lovely bird like that is an insult to the bird! Sqwaaak
HI there Gallus Mag.
I’m a long term lurker/admirer. And today, I decided to finally post something here.
I know this post about gregory gorgeous (now going by GIGI gorgeous because apparently he was a laydee after all-right now I don’t think I can roll my eyes any further back in my head) is pretty old. But I just wanted to bring to your attention exibit A: http://sallyshearsthesteppinrazor.tumblr.com/post/90222585687/nope-nope-nope-nope-i-used-to-want-to-be-on
This is from my now abandoned blog where I wrote a few years ago. It’s not the best, and it’s not what’s important in why I’m commenting.
I’m commenting because, I am a recovering lib fem and was one subscribed to gregory gorgeous because I thought they were “coolies” or something. I reached peak trans and happened upon this I AM TRANSGENDER video of his in 2013….I think….and yea.
Not sure if you’ve written about him in awhile. I guess I should go and look? Anyways, thought you’d like to check out that nice little telling tidbit he dropped in that video that I recorded with my crappy digicam and HAD to post on my blog.
Sorry my comment here is discombobulated. Apparently today I have the dumb and can’t brain well. ha.
“I think that my choice to be a woman, makes me more woman than
a lot of women out there”
What the hell does that even mean? Just for starters.
Nevermind, I know EXACTLY what this kind of Orwellian doublespeak is supposed to mean.
Gregory/gigi now does videos with Kylie Jenner (Bruce/catlyn Jenners daughter. Interesting no?) and is very much involved in the genderist mainsteam movement.
Before I came to my senses, I was following a LOT of male makeup “gurus/artists” on youtube for many years and every single one of them, after proclaiming over and over that they are gay males and NOT transgender and NOT females trapped in male bodies (or whatever trans narrative of the week) have now made “I am transgender” videos: Stefan Sanjati (now stef sanjati), Joseph Harwood, Michael James, FritzFashionista (now ZoeyZoco), Kandy Prince …..the list goes on an on.
It’s becoming face-palmingly predictable. I’m just waiting for some of the other well known ones to make their I AM TRANSGENDER videos and start talking about laydee brains and their feelz.
Ugh.
Anyways, I just thought I would post this here. Not even sure if you’ll see it to approve it. But thought I’d pass this along. Again, sorry for being all over the place and for the extra long tl;dr comment.
Now that I’ve broken the ice, as it were, I hope I’ll lurk less and be more a part of the ongoing discussions.
This blog, was at least half responsible for my waking the fuck up out of the genderist and lib fem nightmare that I was in for too long. So thank you very much for being brave enough to keep going with your work. I found your site, thanks in part to so called TERF lists. Even though I know these lists are laughingly ridiculous as best and terrifyingly dangerous at worst, I depend on them to lead me to other wonderful radfems like yourself. I’ve found SO MANY wonderful women born women like myself through these terf lists. I know I’m not alone in this.
Please keep doing what your doing! It’s so incredibly important, the work you and other women do. Thank you for all you do.
“I was following a LOT of male makeup “gurus/artists” on youtube for many years and every single one of them, after proclaiming over and over that they are gay males and NOT transgender and NOT females trapped in male bodies (or whatever trans narrative of the week) have now made “I am transgender” videos: Stefan Sanjati (now stef sanjati), Joseph Harwood, Michael James, FritzFashionista (now ZoeyZoco), Kandy Prince …..the list goes on an on.”
Very interesting! Thank you for your report. And hello, welcome, etc. I look forward to more from your perspective.
P.S. I agree that the whole deranged “TERF” witchhunt schtick isn’t working so well for them in the information age. 😉
O wow! I never thought to even get a reply! Never mind so quickly! (I turned on e mail notifications haha)
Thank you so much for replying.
I’ve been following closely, the whole youtube trans movement. I used to be on their side, for years, I used to LOVE Rupaul’s Drag Race until about season 4. So, about 4 or 5 years ago is when I started to hit peak trans and finding Gender Trender was INSTRUMENTAL in that. I’m pretty sure I found your site and spent days and days just reading G.T. and NOTHING else and started to question a lot of the indoctrination I had been exposed to. Before that, I had proclaimed myself feminist in very much the sex pozzie (even though I am asexual), pro bdsm, pro sex work pro “you do you sweetie” world. Even though NONE of it ever sat well in my inner most being. Even though that little voice would constantly rebel. And here I was thinking that maybe my fundamentalist/pentacostal upbringing was what that little voice was, and needed squashing. Once I started to understand things, I started to know the difference between my christian upbringing and the liberal feminist/genderist movement.
Seriously, this was all very much many EUREKA moments for me. I can honestly say that I lost every single one of my friends because I began to talk about the things I was reading. It was impossible to unlearn what I had learned. It was impossible to go back to who I was before my eyes were opened and what I describe as “coming online”. It is still, very much like many an onion layer, peeling back, and anytime I think maybe I have gotten to the core oor something akin, there’s yet more layers underneath to peel. It’s very much a learning and yet UNlearning process, trying to figure out what had been indoctrinated in me from a young age on a patriarchal, christian perspective and then what I learned once I rejected christianity or rather, what I describe as reaching the age of reason. Like most ex religious fanatics, I threw myself into the antithesis exact opposite of religion and learned many more harmful things.
Whew I could type for days. Thank you for listening. Sorry to be so wordy.
Again, thank you so much for everything you do Gallus. I so very much appreciate your work. It’s so important, and yes, the TERF witchunt is having the exact opposite effect on at least me and I’ve read of MANY others that come to radical feminism through so called lists.
Well I’m sorry you lost your friends, that isn’t good. Hopefully you are meeting new, more supportive friends. It’s good for anyone exiting a cultic belief system to learn to be observant and detached, objective. Become aware of the characteristics of groupthink and the psychology of “believers”, including, potentially, ourselves. There’s a vast difference between deprogramming and leaping into another belief system. It sounds like you are well on your way in this process, and I’m honored if my work here played any part. Thank you so much!
Justin Countering lacks self confidence doesn’t he?
Poor dear.
Should we thank him for his honesty? I love how it rocks right out the longer the vid goes on.
Fuck you too honey.
Fuck him.
He makes men in the men’s bathroom uncomfortable, therefore he gives himself permission to invade women’s bathrooms and if the women are made uncomfortable, it’s fuck them.
Too damn lazy and cowardly to challenge other men for his right to use his own bathroom, but women? Just piss in our space and the hell with us.
Fuck him. We need to learn how to whip their asses. Seriously.
Also, this guy-o (who doesn’t even identify as a woman or as transsexual, but fully as male) feels perfectly free and happy to violate women’s boundaries at will. That has got to stop.
Seconded.
I am more powerful than a locomotive, can bend steel with my bare hands, and can whoop patriarchal ass faster than a speeding bullet! Oh wait. That’s Superman. But I can tell you the last trans who got aggressive with me publicly complained I left one vertebra left in his neck. He’s lucky I didn’t toss him out the nearest window, The dude came into my hotel room, posing as a woman, and followed me around the room ooo-ing and ahhh-ing, asking me to remove articles of clothing. He not only felt entitled to use the public ladies’ room, he felt entitled to walk into my private bathroom with me in it! The dude is a sexual predator and I’ve seen more than a few hints of rape from other women who have encountered him.
“Me in the boys’ bathroom would make people far more uncomfortable than me in the girls’ bathroom.”
Of course it would.
Because girls aren’t people.
No no no Cherry you read that wrong. What he’s saying, so thoughtful, is that he “upsets” the men. Nudge nudge wink wink.
I can’t imagine why anyone would take an issue with this! He’s just a choosy male choosing his choices and why can’t we just let him do his thang?! *sassy finger snaps*
-_-
Perhaps women don’t say anything to him when he’s in the bathroom because they can perhaps tell that he wouldn’t give a fuck about their safety and feelings? Perhaps they have been shouted at and yelled at before by gay men why have this extreme sense of entitlement in the woman’s restroom? Perhaps as women we have been taught to basically let others walk all over us and therefore we are MUCH less likely to bring up the situation at all especially when we are already feeling unsafe by a male walking unabashedly into the women’s restroom?
Perhaps women KNOW that men DO, in fact, LOVE to sneak into the woman’s restroom specifically to take pictures of us while we’re going to the restroom and that we know this could be ANY male and therefore why should this one be trusted when he comes into the woman’s restroom more than any other male?
I his words: Bitch, please.
I am also sad I cannot find a clip on Youtube from Invader Zim of Zim screaming, “But… invader’s blood marches through my veins, like giant RADIOACTIVE RUBBER PANTS! The pants command me. Do not ignore my veins! ” because his first bit about ladiness or something running through his veins just made me think of that bit and I laughed.
lol
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LKmM4bav0mU
You found it! XD I heart that show so much. 😛
Men’s restrooms don’t seem entirely safe for gay men. I have heard this from more than one gay man, and I have sympathy for the homophobia that contributes to their feeling of “unsafe.” This, of course, suggests that there is something about “some men” that seems unsafe to gay men. These are the same “some men” that many females are concerned about using the ladies’ room. And this is why, of course, people advocate for a limiting definition of “gender identity,” or lobby against “gender identity” – precisely to avoid those “some men” in female-segregated space.
Also, I cannot believe I watched that entire video! Thanks for posting.
GYAH the entitlement! It reeks.
A tampon, huh? Female fetishism comes from gay men too. I’ve experienced this first-hand.
So, he identifies as male, but dresses like a female. He insists on using the female bathroom, and if challenged about it, will become aggressive.
I can’t listen to that dickhead. I had to stop it halfway through. Pretty much, I’m just going to use the so-called “family” bathroom if there is one. Female public life is getting raped beyond all recognition.
Rage. Just… rage. Gay white men have to be some of the whiniest creatures to walk the Earth. They consider themselves marginalized, but in reality they’re privileged as all fuck.
Newsflash, sweetie. No1curr, least of all any self-respecting woman, that you get harassed for being a faggot by your homophobic brothers in the mens room. That has absolutely jack shit to do with women, so WHY do you consider the only solution is to put the burden on women by using the women’s restroom? Either put on your big girl panties and deal with the dudes who harass you, or invest in a fucking pack of Depends.
No, no I’m sorry, I don’t care how cute you think you are, you’re still not welcome to come into the girl’s bathroom to change your tampon.
Interesting how he says he enjoys the girl’s bathroom and the feeling is mutual (presumably from the other patrons.) He’s lying to himself, kind of like rapist lie, by implying that women enjoy him in the bathroom just as much as he enjoys himself. He’s almost saying they’re getting off on it, just like he is, which of course, gives you a clue that he’s not just in there to pee.
I think men need to deal with the “some men” in their own spaces, because it is all about the men causing trouble for each other, and trouble for women.
Gay men think they can walk in anywhere. Back in the day, a couple of dykes would grab them and march them right out into the parking lot, or throw them out of a room physically.
We just didn’t tolerate men walking into our spaces. And someone above was absolutely right that women are silent or ignore men out of fear of them, not because they are comfortable with men in a restroom. No Mr. you have no right to come into the women’s room, and maybe women need to get more aggressive real fast. Don’t you just feel like throwing a bucket of water all over his fake face!
You are exactly right that gay men need to deal with this issue – if gay men feel uncomfortable in the men’s room because of fear of attack rooted in homophobia, that’s an issue they need to deal with directly, by working to eradicate homophobia from other men. It’s endlessly irritating that the impulse to hide behind mommy’s skirts is the default response to much of the concerns about *safety*.
Enough is enough.
I am more than happy to form half of ‘a couple of dykes’.
It is about time females, all females, got more aggressive towards invading males of any kind. Right now, even the gay dudes – who still identify as male – feel so entitled to use the female bathroom.
They can seriously fuck off. More than happy to show them the door. I am not afraid of getting unlaydeelike. Not at all.
Between you being one half and me the other, I’d say we would make a whole lot of trouble for dem men folk.
The entire point of this video was to tell us how well he passes, everything else was just filler. The twink/tranny mind is incapable of much more than thinly veiled (minstrel) vanity.
So, an effeminate male, who identifies himself as an effeminate male, and in no way identifies as female or as woman, is equally repugnant in your eyes as any trans*?
Ah, gotta miss the days when men were men and women were women, right?
“Effeminate”? Define.
I think our friend RFC meant to say “fag”. If she didn’t, then I do.
I personally have no problem with femmy guys, and I seriously doubt anyone here is longing for more gender conformity. The main objection is that he’s using the women’s bathroom. Nice strawman, though.
Huh, guess my original reply didn’t go through or something. Thought it might have been caught in moderation.
I describe “effeminate” as exhibiting a behaviour or appearance stereotypically ascribed to females.
But I guess the point I was getting to, that you all are squicked out because of the ways he acts and adorns himself, was already addressed.
It really is hard to believe, at first glance however, that all the vitriol directed at the dude in these comments isn’t inspired by a visceral disgust at his non-gender-conforming femmyness, which is quite denigrated and attacked by the P as it is. Most of the comments
Also, this guy is so gay he farts rainbows and sneezes glitter. Is his penis, by nature of being a penis, really that big of a threat to all women anywhere that taking a piss in a stall in a women’s bathroom is grounds for an aggressive kick in the pants?
I mean, its a bathroom. Not MichFest.
Also, the implication that what he says is somehow representative of trans is completely false. Hell, this whole page is replete with invalid assumptions, mischaracterizations, and obviously false accusations which can only be attributed to outright ignorance at best, and outright hatred at worst.
Geh, nevermind the incomplete sentence in the second paragraph.
“It really is hard to believe, at first glance however, that all the vitriol directed at the dude in these comments isn’t inspired by a visceral disgust at his non-gender-conforming..”
That is an invalid assumption, mischaracterization, and obviously false accusation.
“Also, the implication that what he says is somehow representative of trans is completely false. Hell, this whole page is replete with invalid assumptions, mischaracterizations, and obviously false accusations which can only be attributed to outright ignorance at best, and outright hatred at worst.”
What a wild accusation. On what do you base it?
“A tampon, huh? Female fetishism comes from gay men too.”
Pre-empting the accusation that he would peep on what women do privately in their stalls, such as change tampons(something for which I understand most women would prefer a great deal of privacy, and guys apparently have some huge interest in) is indicative of fetishism?
[“Pre-empting the accusation that he would peep on what women do privately in their stalls..” Wha???? That’s ALL YOU sierpinski. All YOUR projection. No one but you SAID THAT. The commenter referred to fetishization of the female. Correctly. Not whatever fantasy you projected on their comment.-GM]
“The entire point of this video was to tell us how well he passes, everything else was just filler. The twink/tranny mind is incapable of much more than thinly veiled (minstrel) vanity.”
Pretty much this entire comment is completely off base. Not what he was saying, and not what his intentions were in the least bit, and framing as such requires a deliberate misreading. [The only deliberate misreading is yours. The entire video is about how he should “pass” in female spaces because he performs femininity. Your criticism of the comment is completely off base.-GM]
And accusing his swish of being “minstrel”ism? Really?
[An oppressor CHOOSING to adopt stereotypes of behavior that is MANDATED for those of the groups he oppresses, under THREAT OF VIOLENCE is the very DEFINITION of minstrelism.Really.- GM]
(heaven forbid a man violate gender roles!) [He’s not violating gender roles. He is minstrelizing the sex-roles forced upon females under threat of violence and he’s doing it for his pleasure.-GM]
“And when the restrooms started looking and smelling like shit (pun intended), then lo and behold those women folk better get in there and clean it up, because Mr. Prissy ass … ain’t going to mess up his pretty little hands cleaning up a restroom because that is woman’s work.”
Uh, yeah, restrooms are typically cleaned by the janitorial staff, and usually by the same person for both rooms, regardless of their sex. Not to mention, female restrooms are hardly any cleaner than its male counterparts in most public places. More nonsense that has no bearing on this. [Only a man like yourself would think the stink of man-piss soaked floors has any relation to the odor of a female restroom. Maybe you have never been in a female restroom. Or maybe you have but you still have your balls and can’t even smell how rank your own man-piss smells when you splatter the toilet seat with it. What nonsense. -GM]
Also, using prissy as an obvious slur? That’s not femme hatred. Not one bit. [Prissy: Definition: Overly Prim and Precise; Fussy. http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/prissy. Nothing to do with “femme hatred. Again, that’s ALL YOU. YOUR sexism, YOUR projection of YOUR hatred of females. You are the most reflexively, unselfconsciously male-privileged and female-hating commenter I have allowed on here in ages. Seriously, CHECK YOURSELF or you will be banned. -GM]
“He’s almost saying they’re getting off on it, just like he is, which of course, gives you a clue that he’s not just in there to pee.”
Because all be-penised individuals have an erotic desire to be in the women’s bathroom, m i rite? [Erotic desire is YOUR PROJECTION, YOUR INTERPRETATION to the phrase “getting off on it” Getting off means “to enjoy very much” as in, He implies that the women take great pleasure in his presence in the women’s bathroom, as he clearly takes great pleasure in being there. In your projection YOU inserted eroticism into his pleasure, probably because you only had one hand on the keyboard as you typed, and erotic desire is foremost in your mind at all times. M I Rite? -GM]
These are just the quick and easy ones to point to. There’s much deeper shit here, but this isn’t a venue worth putting that much effort into.
[As a female impersonator and hater of women, who comes on my blog and spews your creepy-ass projections and male-victimization fantasies, makes wild accusations and uses insulting, nasty language, I have to say YOU ARE NOT WORTH MY EFFORT. ANY FURTHER WOMAN-HATING COMMENTARY WILL BE DELETED AND YOU WILL BE BANNED.-GM]
I have seen a good share of (and even shared in) femme hatred, and this whole thread feels no different. Its just couched in social justice language. [Well that says it all doesn’t it. Too bad you can’t read and hear what women are saying, instead of wallowing in your own projections and female-hatred. Good luck with that echo chamber in your brain. -GM]
sierpinki,
I have a lot of issues with what this man (not “boy”) says. First, he says “doing make-up is just natural…it’s in my veins.” As a woman who is EXPECTED to wear make-up I find this really offensive. If he really cares about the “girls” he is sharing the restroom with, why doesn’t he at least take the time to read something about the lives and struggles of women over the past, oh, decades? Or is it only the “gay boy” liberation movement he cares about?
He also says he is not using the men’s restroom just “to make society” happy. Um, I think the “society” he is referring to is WOMEN. The inability to name who does what to whom is something feminists have brought up over and over in the past decades.
Finally, he says “the feeling [of not caring he’s in the bathroom] is mutual among all the participants.” Wow, a bit of mind-reading there? I believe there’s a quote to the effect of ” a recurring theme in all women’s lives is don’t piss of Mr. Sir” because you’ll experience or may experience violence if you do. Women don’t know how this man will react if we show negativity towards him, and since men generally aren’t willing to call out other men on their violence against women, our best bet for safety is to act nice! and friendly!
Do you get why women might have a problem with this dude at all?!
WOAJ- He doesn’t get it because he IS one of those dudes.
Yeah – did you hear that bit about how he was better looking than wives, girlfriends, mothers, sisters? Barf…I wouldn’t choose him over a single female I know.
Exactly. He was breathlessly living for that line.
I love your comments and agree. He is a typical disgusting narcissistic man, with no idea that his “femininity” is male defined.
By the way, another very upsetting thing at BV, was that all the bathrooms had “gender neutral” signs, with both that horrible image in a skirt, supposed to represent us, and the male image. Theoretically, this was supposed to make the Lesbians who get harassed going into women’s bathrooms feel better, but I didn’t want to see a male there. Since I arrived before the second sign was up, I warned friends which really was the male one. I did not feel any safer either from the het women looking at us like we were freaks. At least, for once, we outnumbered them.
I couldn’t get more than 60 seconds in before I had to disconnect. What an entitled prick. It just goes to show that women are expected to be the “catch all.” Men are scared of the male restroom and/or don’t like how it smells, so the women should just move over and make room. And when the restrooms started looking and smelling like shit (pun intended), then lo and behold those women folk better get in there and clean it up, because Mr. Prissy ass who prides himself on looking “better” [fuckable] than real women will so pop his neck and roll his head and snap his finger and talk sauce about how he ain’t going to mess up his pretty little hands cleaning up a restroom because that is woman’s work.
Fucker.
Hello, anonymous lurker here. Didn’t watch the video, because i didn’t want to rise my blood pressure. :/ Someone mentioned that he thought he “passed”. “Passed”? In which dimension exactly? LOL. My god, faggots are trully delusional. I read your blog regularly and I’m really horrified by the things that happen in the west. Sorry for my ramblings, but I had to let some steam off.
Keep on keeping on. :*
Best wishes, Lurker
Thanks, I think?
Just curious why a regular reader would suddenly comment on a post about a video they didn’t even watch. No, this twink specifically said he had no intention of passing as a woman. The only thing this young man is delusional about is the belief that women want him in the stall next to them when he takes a dump. Other than that, he’s fabulous as far as I’m concerned. Flaaaaaaaaaaaaammmmingly Fabulous.
Also “things that happen in the west”? Don’t fool yourself. Poland may hate Lesbians and Gays but that doesn’t mean that Poland hates gender and sex roles. Quite the opposite as far as I can see.
Pisses me off! Literally! He still has a cock, and he IS a cock. What a vain stupid silly gay boy in drag…I’ve endured this in MANY a gay/lesbian conference, all the drag queens(and I’m talking drag queens, NOT MTF’s here) feel absolutely entitled to use the Women’s bathroom, while us almost invisible Dykes and Butch Dykes have to scurry around them as they take up so much space with their ‘fabulousness’, spraying their hair, and primping and such. Men are NASTY, they pee on the floor and miss the toilet and leave it up, and it IS an invasion, and until us Dykes and women start doing something about it, it WILL continue. This dude should be cuffed, led out, ticketed and fined and sent out the door and told NO! IF you must, use the disabled/mixed use bathroom, but leave us the fuck alone!
This is why I can’t stand drag queen shows and such because of just this kind of arrogance and stupidity and vapidness! They make fun of our Femaleness, while putting Dykes and Butches down as ‘ugly’ and ‘being more woman’ than we are! Not only that, this dude is seriously Methed up which alot of silly gay white boys are. He talks a mile a minute, ‘Dude, you’re on Meth!’ YOU shut the fuck up!
-FeistyAmazon who would glad escort him out the door!
He still has a cock, and he IS a cock.
LOL, brilliant, that sums up the entire narcissistic video above.
And yeah, I am rather sick of narcissistic drag queens making a show of their performance in the ladies room. They primp and preen about ten-fold what het women do in the bathrooms.
Like all males, drag queens have to have an audience. We are being told by laws that we have to put up with these ‘private drag shows’ in the women’s bathrooms – all the time born-women are being mocked and ridiculed, and most women do know this at a base level, that they are being mocked by drag queens.
Would a white dude really go into a black neighbourhood, blacked up and singing “Mammy”? Or would he get the ever-living crap beaten out of him for mocking them? (and rightly so, imho).
The same shit now happens in women’s bathrooms. We are subjected to a mocking and ridicule of femaleness, and also the femininity crap that we are forced to perform and do not want. Minstrelising females, and artificial femininity. I don’t have the humour for it. None.
So what do we have here, a newly converted FtM?
Those who didn’t watch the vid through I implore you do. It’s high camp. Unintentional of course, but a great guffaw gets better as it goes along. He’s so in love with himself.
Gotta love the guys who fully embrace femininity and claim they look better than any woman. lulz. So delusional, and so threatened by women’s existence.
Don’t let them in the disabled toilet. Escort him/them off a cliff.
Thanks for dealing with the prick, Gallus.
Hi Kitty.
I finally watched to the end. I will never get over white male sense of entitlement and arrogance. If they weren’t destroying the world as a group and invaded what little we have left, they would be so ridiculous.
He looks better than most women? Huh? What am I missing here? Does he often compare him to other species? What’s next? Is he going to claim he looks better than most giraffes? Seals? Goats? Frogs? I don’t know how to break it to you, dude, but you’re only a legend in your own mind. I find you almost as absurd as your claim that make-up is natural. Personally, I don’t find the dude in the least bit appealing or attractive. He’s whiter than most of my sheets. Is he a ghost or something? Good thing he’s wearing make-up or I might not see him and might try to walk right through him. But hey, if other dudes dig the Peter Pan look and find him attractive, good for them! I firmly believe dudes deserve each other. But role play in your own bathroom and stay out of mine, k?
“Is he going to claim he looks better than most giraffes? Seals? Goats? Frogs?”
I seriously just splurted coke all over the keyboard. THanks very much luckynkl!
I’ve watched another vid of his. He is just Taking. The. Piss. OUt. Of. Women. FOr example he talks about some woman, how she’s his best friend, but OMG her teeth! They’re just yellow and eww. I thought, at first, that he was being ironic, because we all women know women aren’t like that, so I thought that MAYBE he was taking the piss out of the STEREOTYPE the media has of us as vapid and shallow humans. BUt the more i watched, the more I realized he BELIEVED that steretotype, and believed that THAT is how women DO ACTUALLY behave. It wasn’t pleasant.
I know! Somebody above claims we just don’t like effeminate men. What the heck is effeminate? Has he doubled his work load and cut his wages in half? Has he put the needs of everyone else before his own?
Let’s see, vapid, shallow, self centered, telling everybody to shove it, bullying, unable to empathize, those are “manly” characteristics! That’s what people are objecting to. The make up is nothing. Men have been wearing make up forever, powdered wigs, tights, war paint, assorted adornments. They’re peacocks, I tell ya!
He’s not “effeminate”, he’s a male’s distorted stereotype of women.
Yes, I agree. All so well said. Thank you also, Lucky, for making me laugh too.
Willing to put other’s needs ahead of his own, get half the pay…. powered wigs anyone?
He is the very definition of stereotypical arrogant masculinity…. I actually think he is pretending to be gay and is really a straight male fettishist…. because if he were a true gay man and woman immitating, he would not inconvenience women, but would stay in his own restroom.
Peacocks….hmmm…. I think comparing him to a lovely bird like that is an insult to the bird! Sqwaaak
that’s a really good point Sheila. How do we know he’s even gay? He could just be a piss-taker.
HI there Gallus Mag.
I’m a long term lurker/admirer. And today, I decided to finally post something here.
I know this post about gregory gorgeous (now going by GIGI gorgeous because apparently he was a laydee after all-right now I don’t think I can roll my eyes any further back in my head) is pretty old. But I just wanted to bring to your attention exibit A:
http://sallyshearsthesteppinrazor.tumblr.com/post/90222585687/nope-nope-nope-nope-i-used-to-want-to-be-on
This is from my now abandoned blog where I wrote a few years ago. It’s not the best, and it’s not what’s important in why I’m commenting.
I’m commenting because, I am a recovering lib fem and was one subscribed to gregory gorgeous because I thought they were “coolies” or something. I reached peak trans and happened upon this I AM TRANSGENDER video of his in 2013….I think….and yea.
Not sure if you’ve written about him in awhile. I guess I should go and look? Anyways, thought you’d like to check out that nice little telling tidbit he dropped in that video that I recorded with my crappy digicam and HAD to post on my blog.
Sorry my comment here is discombobulated. Apparently today I have the dumb and can’t brain well. ha.
“I think that my choice to be a woman, makes me more woman than
a lot of women out there”
What the hell does that even mean? Just for starters.
Nevermind, I know EXACTLY what this kind of Orwellian doublespeak is supposed to mean.
Gregory/gigi now does videos with Kylie Jenner (Bruce/catlyn Jenners daughter. Interesting no?) and is very much involved in the genderist mainsteam movement.
Before I came to my senses, I was following a LOT of male makeup “gurus/artists” on youtube for many years and every single one of them, after proclaiming over and over that they are gay males and NOT transgender and NOT females trapped in male bodies (or whatever trans narrative of the week) have now made “I am transgender” videos: Stefan Sanjati (now stef sanjati), Joseph Harwood, Michael James, FritzFashionista (now ZoeyZoco), Kandy Prince …..the list goes on an on.
It’s becoming face-palmingly predictable. I’m just waiting for some of the other well known ones to make their I AM TRANSGENDER videos and start talking about laydee brains and their feelz.
Ugh.
Anyways, I just thought I would post this here. Not even sure if you’ll see it to approve it. But thought I’d pass this along. Again, sorry for being all over the place and for the extra long tl;dr comment.
Now that I’ve broken the ice, as it were, I hope I’ll lurk less and be more a part of the ongoing discussions.
This blog, was at least half responsible for my waking the fuck up out of the genderist and lib fem nightmare that I was in for too long. So thank you very much for being brave enough to keep going with your work. I found your site, thanks in part to so called TERF lists. Even though I know these lists are laughingly ridiculous as best and terrifyingly dangerous at worst, I depend on them to lead me to other wonderful radfems like yourself. I’ve found SO MANY wonderful women born women like myself through these terf lists. I know I’m not alone in this.
Please keep doing what your doing! It’s so incredibly important, the work you and other women do. Thank you for all you do.
“I was following a LOT of male makeup “gurus/artists” on youtube for many years and every single one of them, after proclaiming over and over that they are gay males and NOT transgender and NOT females trapped in male bodies (or whatever trans narrative of the week) have now made “I am transgender” videos: Stefan Sanjati (now stef sanjati), Joseph Harwood, Michael James, FritzFashionista (now ZoeyZoco), Kandy Prince …..the list goes on an on.”
Very interesting! Thank you for your report. And hello, welcome, etc. I look forward to more from your perspective.
P.S. I agree that the whole deranged “TERF” witchhunt schtick isn’t working so well for them in the information age. 😉
O wow! I never thought to even get a reply! Never mind so quickly! (I turned on e mail notifications haha)
Thank you so much for replying.
I’ve been following closely, the whole youtube trans movement. I used to be on their side, for years, I used to LOVE Rupaul’s Drag Race until about season 4. So, about 4 or 5 years ago is when I started to hit peak trans and finding Gender Trender was INSTRUMENTAL in that. I’m pretty sure I found your site and spent days and days just reading G.T. and NOTHING else and started to question a lot of the indoctrination I had been exposed to. Before that, I had proclaimed myself feminist in very much the sex pozzie (even though I am asexual), pro bdsm, pro sex work pro “you do you sweetie” world. Even though NONE of it ever sat well in my inner most being. Even though that little voice would constantly rebel. And here I was thinking that maybe my fundamentalist/pentacostal upbringing was what that little voice was, and needed squashing. Once I started to understand things, I started to know the difference between my christian upbringing and the liberal feminist/genderist movement.
Seriously, this was all very much many EUREKA moments for me. I can honestly say that I lost every single one of my friends because I began to talk about the things I was reading. It was impossible to unlearn what I had learned. It was impossible to go back to who I was before my eyes were opened and what I describe as “coming online”. It is still, very much like many an onion layer, peeling back, and anytime I think maybe I have gotten to the core oor something akin, there’s yet more layers underneath to peel. It’s very much a learning and yet UNlearning process, trying to figure out what had been indoctrinated in me from a young age on a patriarchal, christian perspective and then what I learned once I rejected christianity or rather, what I describe as reaching the age of reason. Like most ex religious fanatics, I threw myself into the antithesis exact opposite of religion and learned many more harmful things.
Whew I could type for days. Thank you for listening. Sorry to be so wordy.
Again, thank you so much for everything you do Gallus. I so very much appreciate your work. It’s so important, and yes, the TERF witchunt is having the exact opposite effect on at least me and I’ve read of MANY others that come to radical feminism through so called lists.
Well I’m sorry you lost your friends, that isn’t good. Hopefully you are meeting new, more supportive friends. It’s good for anyone exiting a cultic belief system to learn to be observant and detached, objective. Become aware of the characteristics of groupthink and the psychology of “believers”, including, potentially, ourselves. There’s a vast difference between deprogramming and leaping into another belief system. It sounds like you are well on your way in this process, and I’m honored if my work here played any part. Thank you so much!